How can i keep it together and stop having panic attacks?
by sinela on Thursday, July 1st, 2010 | 6 Comments
Im going thro a really tough time, my husband and i may be getting a divorce. I have no friends to talk to. Also i cant stop getting panic attacks. I feel like it’s hard to go outside by myself. I feel completely crippled by all of the anxiety. I dont know what todo
Hi, you are really having a tough time, and it is an added difficulty if you have no one to talk to.
Two good listeners are:-
1/ Relate. Ask for an appointment and go to see them.
2/ Your doctor. Again get an appointment, and go and see him/her.
Before you see either of them, make a note of all the things that are distressing you, so that you can come away thinking you left nothing out.. Your doc is really the best person to help, as he can also advise about the panic attacks.
Best wishes.
That happened to me for a couple of years. What helped me what reading books by Dr. Claire Weekes. She helps you to feel not so alone. Sorry this is happening to you. This too shall pass I promise! Hugs!
Contact the American for Marriage and Family Therapy (202) 452 0109. Why have you no friends? This is when you need to have a support group. If you have social anxiety, or agoraphobia*, view http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/1.html and pages e, h, and i.
See http://www.wikihow.com/how-to-make-friends Try to resolve your differences, and reach mutual understanding, and an accomodation, via counselling. If not, at least don’t have a bitter divorce, and try to remain on reasonably good terms, for the children’s sake.
I completely understand about the panic attacks (I get them all the time). While it is almost impossible to "keep it together" when one hits, you can learn coping skills to help.
A few things you can do is, when one hits, breath deeply and remind yourself that you are OK. Nothing bad will happen. You will make it out of this alive. While it’s happening this may not be believable but it’s true. You will be ok and you will survive. Another thing you can do is picture some happy place (what every works for you) and visualize yourself there, calm and relaxed.
You can keep a journal and see what is causing the panic attacks…this might help if you can keep it up…I can’t. But I’ve heard it works. Eventually you’ll see a pattern.
I would highly suggest you get a good therapist. Sitting there and talking to someone helps a lot. I see a therapist weekly and it has helped so much.
And finally, if you choose to go this way, you can see a psychiatrist (pdoc) and talk about other options. Meds really do work if you give them a chance. And while many people are against them, many of them have never taken them or had a bad experience. Talking with a pdoc can help make this decision easier and more comfortable.
Good Luck
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had panic attacks for many years myself. One of the main things is getting support – talking to your doctor. They will put you in touch with support whether it is a therapist or a grp of some kind. We all need to feel supported in life. I have experience of many different ways of getting to grips with anxiety and panic attacks. Conscious management of thoughts is really essential, using the mind as a tool to get you through rather than allowing it to sabotage you. There is an interesting looking product online at the moment….
http://tinyurl.com/yfn8436
They send out some free info which looks like it’s on the right track. Does anyone have direct experience of this one?
I’ve done a fair amount of therapy and used brain entrainment products. In particular I have found that the Holosync products have helped alot. They use sound technology to develop neurology…for me these products have opened a space of peace inside that I am able to rest in anytime nowadays. There are cheaper varieties online of this kind of thing but I have no experience of them – anyone else know anything about this?
Hope this is helpful…and I hope you feel surrounded by support here.
Good luck =)
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